DEAR DEIDRE I seduced my ex’s brother to see who was better between the sheets

DEAR DEIDRE: I miss sex with my ex so I slept with his little brother hoping he’d be just as good in bed.

We split up because I’d had enough of hearing he wanted us to settle down. I wasn’t ready for that.

He’s 31 and we were together for two years but I still regard myself as young at 25.

I don’t want to be married until I’m at least 30 and having babies definitely isn’t on my radar.

He was my first true love and things were good at first, but all he talked about were his investments and his plan for us to buy a house.

All my friends were going out having fun while I’d stay in with my boyfriend and he’d talk about mortgages and selling my car so that I could put more money in the pot.

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It was causing arguments 

 so I ended our relationship. He was heartbroken but I suddenly felt free.

I went clubbing with friends and loved being chatted up. I started drinking more and getting off with any man who paid me attention. I have since slept with 11 men in two months.

I was out last week and bumped into my ex’s younger brother. He’s 25 and I always liked him. My parents were away for the weekend so I invited him to come back to mine.

I seduced him because I wanted to see which brother was best between the sheets. His younger brother was an amazing lover with coaxing from me.

And although I enjoyed myself, I’ve been wondering why I haven’t heard from him since.

I’m not sure why I’m behaving this way. I love sex and feeling desired but know I’m going to get a reputation if I continue sleeping around.Everyone enjoys receiving positive attention but the thrills of one-night stands are often short-lived.

You don’t know these guys and could be risking your physical safety as well as your sexual health.

And for what? Five minutes of fumbling sex, then the awkwardness of making small talk with a guy you barely know.

Of course there is nothing wrong with having some fun, but it sounds like this isn’t actually what you want.

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